It seems that our best intentions cannot prevent clutter from finding its way into the corners of our lives; it piles up in our homes, in our minds and in our devices and it comes in many forms:
- Physical: Clothes we don't wear, miscellaneous papers, broken sports equipment, old toys
- Emotional: Repetitive negative self-talk, fragmented to-do lists, excessive worry
- Digital: Promotional emails, forgotten downloads, unused apps
We invest a lot of time, energy and money in thoughts and things that we hope will return the life we want. We tell ourselves that we're one click, purchase, promotion or relationship away from happiness, only to get it and still feel dissatisfied.
We've all been there.
So, what do we do with all this...stuff? All the memories of past relationships? All the crap in the closet? All the poorly labeled documents on our laptop? It can feel daunting to go through it and figure our what's worth carrying forward, what we want to share and what we need to let go of. I'd venture a guess that, if you closed your eyes right now and tried to imagine what you'd feel like after a process like that, you might feel a little lighter, calmer and more free.
And then you'd remember that you held on to all this stuff for a reason! I wouldn't be who I am without this, or what if I need that in the future! Like I said, this is a process and a slow and very intentional one at that.
In the end, we're left with the question, "How do I live a more meaningful life?" In therapy, we reduce clutter by building an insight based action plan to create experiences that bring you a greater sense of contentment, connection and joy. We do that by:
- Nurturing a mindful relationship with products by identifying the emotions attached to them
- Improving mental and physical organization to increase accessibility and utility
- Reducing time and energy spent maintaining thoughts and things that do not add value
- Strengthening capacity for decisive action and effective boundary setting