It is difficult to talk about uncomfortable emotions without also discussing the the ways in which we seek to manage them. Most people endorse using technology to elevate their mood, quiet their thoughts, relax, or connect; but the benefits associated with technology often come with side effects that can impact our physical, emotional and relational health. Do any of the following fit for you or a loved one?
- Reduced attention span or increased distractibility
- Decreased interest in activities that used to be enjoyable
- Difficulty setting or maintaining limits on screen use
- Pervasive sense of boredom or irritability offline
- Increased dependence on technology to mediate communication
- Relationships that feel empty, lonely or distant
- Diminished sense of purpose or meaningful contribution
I work with clients to engage mindfully with technology, improve emotion regulation, build skills to address symptoms of anxiety and depression, define sustainable boundaries, optimize communication for connection and deepen intimacy between partners. Through insight based action, clients can expect to make measurable progress toward meaningful goals.
Work | Life
Americans are increasingly responding to email after hours, telecommuting and working on the weekend (Bureau of Labor Statistics, 2016). The 'always-on' work culture trains our mind and body to adapt to circumstances in which a heightened state of reactivity becomes a default setting. There are many benefits that advanced technology provides and specific challenges that impact the employee and those around them. Some of the challenges include:
Long and/or unpredictable work hours
High expectations for productivity
Pressure to reduce response time for calls, texts, emails
Which can all lead to chronic stress:
Physical Effects | Headaches, muscle tension, changes in appetite or sleep, unusual weight gain or weight loss, acid reflux, high-blood pressure, GI distress, joint pain
Emotional Effects | Irritability, loneliness, numbness, excessive guilt, worry, sadness
Relational Effects | Increased conflict, decreased intimacy, disrupted parenting, increased use of technology to mediate communication, difficulty engaging with emotions due to the expectation of interruptions
My therapy services can be customized for individuals, couples and families who want support from a therapist who understands how our modern work culture can impact your health and relationships.
There are many benefits to gaming including: access to an active social group, consistent feedback about growth and sense of accomplishment, an outlet for competition, creativity and teamwork, as well as the opportunity to explore engaging and immersive worlds. With the obvious advantages, come some downsides including:
Gaming taking an increasing amount of time, energy and money
Relying on gaming to distract from uncomfortable thoughts and feelings
Increased conflict with others related to gaming, or increased efforts to hide game play
Diminished confidence in communication skills offline
Experiencing irritability, hostility, sadness, anger when game is inaccessible
Gaming that feels like work
Alternating between heavy gaming and attempts to cut back or quit gaming altogether
Whether you are here hoping to find support for yourself, your partner or child, we can work together to create meaningful change.
ONLINE HARASSMENT & CYBERBULLYING
Bullying is defined as deliberate, repetitive and harmful actions intended to create, or exaggerate, a power imbalance. Examples include:
- Hurtful comments made in public or private online spaces
- Threats of physical or sexual violence
- Private pictures or videos distributed without consent with the intention of causing embarrassment or fear
- Spreading sensitive information
Online harassment and bullying can contribute to stress, anxiety and depression if the cycle of harmful behavior is not interrupted. I work with kids, teens, parents and adults to re-establish safety, control and well being.